How Do You Create The Circle Of Influence You Need After A Traumatic Experience?

Timika S Chambers, The Lioness
3 min readJun 28, 2021

We are in the last few days of June. In the last week of the month, I focus on resources for whatever topic I am discussing. Whatever you are going through, I want you to know you are not alone. Whatever support you feel you don’t have, you can create. For every moment in the darkness, a light is available to lead you to your healing path.

During and after an unwanted event, it’s easy to feel like you are alone. Although family surrounded me during my childhood sexual abuse experience, fear, guilt, and shame kept me imprisoned in a dark secret. I felt as though I was in a maze with no way out.

Childhood sexual abuse is not the only experience that brings anger, betrayal, darkness, guilt, resentment, and shame. Any experience that violates our divine rights of dignity and respect can bring darkness.

What I forgot was I am not alone. My voice and my body matter.

No matter what you have gone through or going through, please know that you are not alone. You just haven’t found the person who can help show you your light, and it’s not your fault when people are not ready to heal their pain. I know you may feel like you are in the dark, but your light is still there, waiting for you to recognize it.

After the abuse, I stood between the crevice of my bed and my dresser and looked at the sky. The next thing I knew, I said I want to be aligned with nature. After that, a series of events took place, including reading the entire King James Bible, learning the Lord’s prayer, and identifying with Jesus' story and admiration for his character traits. For example, Jesus loved in the face of betrayal, healed in disbelief, and showed compassion where there was hate and judgment.

How do you create your circle of influence?

  1. Understand how priceless you are. There is no one like you in the world, and others’ actions do not reduce your worth.
  2. Speak your truth no matter who is not ready to hear it, and keep speaking your truth until you are heard, and the matter is dealt with.
  3. Focus on who you want to be. Seek empowering stories of those who moved forward despite their experiences through different mediums…
Timika S Chambers, The Lioness

Writer, wife, mom, & a Determination 2 Learn, Live, & Love. Create A Generational Cycle of Love Podcast. Receive 5 Spiritual Truths @